How to Not Suck at Life #5 mind your P’s and Q’s!

Please and Thank You. So simple. Yet so many people seem to forget how to say those words. Remembering those 3 simple words can be the difference between a great relationship or a horrible one.

The other day I was talking to some of my friends and the topic of relationships came up. One set of friends have been married for a few years, and the other set has been married over 30! The topic came up about how sometimes when the younger couple does something “cute” in front of other couples, they tend to smirk and say something like, “oh, that’s cute. Just wait until you’ve been together for 10 years!” And then proceed to laugh at their own comment. When talking to the couple that had been married for 30 years (the whole time this is going on, single Joey is just trying to pretend to understand haha) they said something great. Basically, they said not to let other people’s relationship issues get them down, and that one of the most important things you can do in a relationship is to not take things for granted and always remember to say please and thank you. Especially for things that have become routine. She is the one that always does the grocery shopping? Say thank you when you see that the pantry and fridge are full. He is always cleaning the house? Say thank you when you notice it’s clean. You know that your significant other will get you a glass of water if you ask, but remember to ask with a PLEASE.

This also has many practical applications in the non-marriage world too. Back in the day, I was a waiter at a higher end restaurant and I’ll tell you right now; if you are any kind of decent human being (or wanted my best service) you’d say please and thank you. Not only will this imply that you understand that your server is a human being and not your personal servant, it will get you better service as well. Ever been to a bar and got a free drink from the bartender just because you were nice? It happens. Sure, it could have been that they though I was looking super fly (cuz that’s how I roll) but the fact remains: free stuff is not given to the A-holes. Waitstaff has this amazing thing called access to the kitchen and bar, so when an order is messed up, they can either throw it away, eat/drink it themselves…or, they could give it to their favorite guest of the night: you. The one who said please and thank you. There are many times when I would go out of my way to provide exceptional service to polite guests, and many times when I have been on the receiving end. A free drink or app here and there makes for a fantastic experience.

This can also be applied to work. If you work in an office, retail store, restaurant, or wherever; being kind and saying please and thank you can make a world of difference to how you are treated and how others see you. Yeah, it might be Billy’s job to make all of the copies in the office, or Mary’s job to bring in lunch everyday, etc. but that doesn’t mean you should forgo the please and thank you when they provide a service for you, especially if they did it it exceptionally well. Ask with a please, receive with a thank you. If you don’t, you might end up sucking at life and become “that guy” at work…you know, the super-douche who thinks he is more important than everyone else there, even the boss…don’t be that guy…he sucks at life.

I’m not trying to say that you should be saying please and thank you so you can get free stuff (but hey, it happens sometimes) but just reminding you that opportunities to not suck at life are everywhere, and a little kindness might open doors you didn’t even know were there. If you don’t want to suck at life, you’ll remember the Golden rule. Treat others how you would like to be treated. And that means remembering the simple things, like please and thank you.