With all this hate going on in the world right now, and suicide and depression at an all time high, it is more important than ever for you to learn how to have a positive impact on the lives of others, and therefore Not Suck At Life.
One habit I have adopted in order for me to Not Suck At Life is this: Once a day I try to compliment someone, do a random act of kindness, or tell someone that I love them. Simple. Compliment, random kindness, love. It sounds super lame and full of feel-good-ery, but a small action or kind word can have a major impact on others and yourself. You might be surprised just how hard it is to be intentional with this at first, but it gets easier. Here are some examples of what this habit could look like.
Compliment – Compliments are easy, but the important thing here is to be genuine with whatever you say. If you notice someone is wearing a cool new shirt, for instance, say something like, “Hey, Bob, I like that shirt!” but if you really don’t like the shirt, maybe keep your mouth shut. People can tell when you are not being genuine. Compliments are free, too, which is nice. You can literally change someone’s whole day for the better, and win some “relationship points” in about 3 seconds without spending a dime. Words can have a profound impact on someones day, and even their whole life. If you don’t want to suck at life, then be careful with your words.
Random Kindness – Random acts of kindness are fun. Pay for someone’s meal behind you in a drive thru. Buy someone coffee. You overheard someone saying they would love a red bull, so buy them one. It doesn’t have to cost money, nor does it have to be for a total stranger. It could be as simple as folding someone else’s clothes at home, or cleaning up the kitchen for them. The important thing with this one is that it is random, meaning no one told you to do it or asked you to do it. You just did it because. It’s a great way to show someone you care, and it’s fun to be sneaky about it sometimes.
Love – Saying I love you is harder than you think. Most people can say something like, “Love ya” or “I love you, man” but just saying “I love you.” can be hard. This is another one that takes practice, and also intentionality. Don’t go saying it unless you mean it. People will be able to tell. Relationships are the most valuable things we have (if you can really say that we “have” or “own” them) and they should be treasured. Life is cray cray! There are awesome, and awful, things happening everyday. No one knows how much time they have left, so enjoy it while you are here and tell your friends/family that you love them.
Life has a habit of getting busy, and before you know it, the day is gone. That’s why it is important for you to actually make an effort of doing this for the first few weeks. Wake up in the morning and write it down. Set a reminder on your phone. Sticky note on your desk. You get it. Treat this just like any other goal, and it will become second nature in no time! You might just end up being the reason someone decides to keep going in this crazy world, and to me, that is a pretty great reason to get out of your comfort zone a bit.