How to not suck at life #11

Want to not suck at life? Develop a habit of winning. Everyday.

Winning is everything. We’ve all heard that phrase before and, while most of us don’t take it too literally and resort to underhanded tactics in order to win in a game or competition, there is quite a bit of power in winning. Winning makes you feel good. Winning boosts your confidence. Winning makes you believe in yourself. Winning means, by definition, that you beat someone or something. Winning means that you are successful. Winning is addictive and sets you up to win more. Winning is not just something you do for a sport or game, it is something you can do in life as well. Heck, you NEED to win at life. But what does it means to win at life? Winning at life is all about setting up habits and processes so you can be successful (what success looks like is up to you and your goals) and be the best you can be. Here are a few ways to set up your life so you can win, everyday.

#1-Define your goals. I’ve said it many times before and will continue to do so. You need to know what success looks like for you BEFORE you can start moving towards it. If you don’t have a target, you’ll miss every shot you take. Take some time and really think about what you want. It might come to you in a second, or it might take some deep thinking. Your goal will probably change over time, too, or you might add new goals as well. That doesn’t matter, what does matter is that you have a target.

#2-Set daily tasks. Think of the 3-5 things you need to do everyday in order to win. Write them down. Everyday, first thing in the morning, write down what you need to do in order to win. Want to make more money than last year? Break down how you can do that into simple tasks. As an example, I used to write down  “I will spend 15 minutes reading today” because I wanted to get through a massive pile of books that were stacking up. After a a few weeks of this, it became a habit. The 3-5 things you need to do might stay the same for awhile, or it might be something specific to the day, like having a tough conversation with someone that day only. Depending on what your goals are, it might be something like, “I will make more calls at work.” It might mean dressing nicer. It might be not taking no for an answer. It might be getting that 30 minutes of exercise a day. Figure out what you have to do and DO IT. We all have some kind of idea about what we need to do in order to be better in our field, but for some reason we get hung up on change. Trying something new can be hard, but if you don’t change, the results won’t either. It’s gonna take work, but trust the process.

#3-Be the honey badger. Haters gonna hate. You will have people who don’t believe in you. Some out of love (think about a parent that doesn’t want to see you fail so they think they are doing the right thing by telling you not to take a risk) and others…not so much. Don’t worry about them. Trust your attack plan and keep moving forward. Winning is everything, but that doesn’t mean you should cheat, steal, or be a D-bag. It does mean that you shouldn’t give a crap about what people think (to an extent). Instead, you should focus on the positives and what you can control. You can’t force people to like you, but you can choose to not let their “problem” with you affect you. You control your response and emotions. If you want to win, your gonna have to overcome the haters. YOU want to win, so stay positive and  don’t settle for someone else’s dreams and goals. Don’t settle for average. Don’t settle for better than so-and-so. Only settle for the BEST you can be.

#4-Keep learning. The day you stop learning is the day you kill your potential. Never think you are too good or smart to learn from other’s success and failures. Seek advice from people more successful than you (and yeah, there will probably ALWAYS be someone better than you) by meeting them in person, reading their books, or listening to their podcasts.  Successful people love sharing their knowledge and wisdom, and most of the time it’s free! Take advantage of the crazy amounts of information you have available at your finger tips. You really have no excuse for not trying to continually improve yourself.

Remember, winning begets more winning. Once you start, you won’t want to stop. So what are you waiting for? If you don’t want to suck at life, get out there and start winning! DFQ!